Episode 45

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17th Nov 2025

The Power of Gratitude: How Thankfulness Builds Mental Toughness in Young Athletes

Harnessing the Power of Gratitude for Mental Toughness and Performance

Discover how gratitude can be a powerful tool for mental toughness and performance in sports In this episode of Car Ride Conversations for Sports Families, host Valerie Alston delves into the concept of mental toughness and emphasizes the importance of gratitude as a powerful performance tool. Valerie explains how practicing gratitude can enhance happiness, stress management, resilience, and overall mental toughness. She introduces a simple yet effective gratitude practice called the 'Three Good Things' exercise, which involves noticing and reflecting on good things daily. Valerie provides scientific insights on why gratitude matters and offers practical tips for incorporating it into daily life, specifically for young athletes and their families. The episode concludes with a series of thought-provoking questions designed to spark meaningful conversations and encourage ongoing gratitude practices within families.

00:00 Introduction to Mental Toughness and Gratitude

01:34 The Science Behind Gratitude

02:36 Negativity Bias and Its Impact

05:04 Gratitude in Sports Performance

07:56 Three Good Things Exercise

12:27 Reflection and Gratitude

14:23 Gratitude Practice Challenge

18:06 Discussion Prompts and Conclusion


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Discussion questions:

  1. What’s one thing that went right for you today, big or small?
  2. Who’s someone on your team or at school you’re grateful for — and why?
  3. What challenge are you thankful for because it taught you something?
  4. How can we remind each other to notice ‘three good things’ this week?



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Car Ride Conversations For Sports Families
Conversation prompts for building mentally tough young athletes while you drive
The ultimate podcast for parents, coaches, and young athletes who want to unlock the secrets to mental toughness, confidence, and resilience. Whether you're on your way to practice, a big game, or just tackling the daily grind, these bite-sized episodes are designed to spark meaningful conversations to equip young athletes with actionable tools to thrive in school, sports and life while building strong relationships with their parents, one car ride at a time.

Hosted by Valerie Alston, former D1 athlete, sport psychology expert, and resilience coach, each episode dives into key topics like building effective self-talk, staying calm under pressure, and bouncing back from setbacks. With real-life stories, practical tips, and relatable insights, you'll discover how to support your athlete's journey while strengthening your connection along the way.

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Valerie Alston

Drawing from a rich background as a former D1 softball player and a Certified Mental Performance Consultant, she boasts over 15 years of experience dedicated to teaching and training Soldiers in the intricate art of mental toughness and resilience. As a distinguished author and coach, she brings a unique perspective to the realm of performance enhancement. Currently, her passion lies in empowering today's youth, leveraging her expertise to build and foster resilience through sports and mental toughness training, ensuring the next generation thrives in both their athletic pursuits and broader life challenges. With a comprehensive approach to athlete development, she extends her expertise to parents and coaches. Committed to enhancing understanding, she collaborates with them to impart valuable insights on building the mental toughness of young athletes, fostering an environment that nurtures resilience and unleashes their full potential.