Episode 36

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15th Sep 2025

Starting Late, Learning Fast: A Teen’s First Steps Into Competitive Sports

From Dance to Tennis: A Teen's Journey in Competitive Sports 

In this special episode of Car Ride Conversations, host Valerie Alston is joined by her teenage niece, Ireland, who shares her journey of transitioning from dance to competitive tennis. They discuss the challenges of not making the team initially, the motivation behind her continued efforts, and the lessons learned about mental toughness, energy management, and confidence. Whether you're a young athlete starting out or navigating new challenges, this episode offers fresh insights and relatable moments. Don't miss this inspiring chat that explores how to build resilience and confidence through sports.

00:00 Introduction: A Dancer's Journey to Tennis

01:13 Meet Ireland: From Dance to Tennis

02:12 Starting Tennis: The Initial Struggles

03:57 Balancing Act: Time Management and Motivation

06:11 Mental and Physical Challenges

08:31 Technical Difficulties and Key Takeaways

11:49 Reflective Questions for Listeners

15:10 Closing Remarks and Resources




Discussion questions:

  1. Have you ever tried something new and failed at first—like not making a team or struggling with a skill? What made you want to keep going (or not)? What helped you get better?
  2. How is your sport (or activity) different from others you’ve done before? What new skills—mental or physical—have you had to build?
  3. When you’re in a long, tough practice or match, what helps you stay focused or motivated? How can we build more of that mental strength together?
  4. What’s harder for you—physical effort or mental effort? Why? What strategies do you use to push through either one when things get hard?


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Car Ride Conversations For Sports Families
Conversation prompts for building mentally tough young athletes while you drive
The ultimate podcast for parents, coaches, and young athletes who want to unlock the secrets to mental toughness, confidence, and resilience. Whether you're on your way to practice, a big game, or just tackling the daily grind, these bite-sized episodes are designed to spark meaningful conversations to equip young athletes with actionable tools to thrive in school, sports and life while building strong relationships with their parents, one car ride at a time.

Hosted by Valerie Alston, former D1 athlete, sport psychology expert, and resilience coach, each episode dives into key topics like building effective self-talk, staying calm under pressure, and bouncing back from setbacks. With real-life stories, practical tips, and relatable insights, you'll discover how to support your athlete's journey while strengthening your connection along the way.

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Valerie Alston

Drawing from a rich background as a former D1 softball player and a Certified Mental Performance Consultant, she boasts over 15 years of experience dedicated to teaching and training Soldiers in the intricate art of mental toughness and resilience. As a distinguished author and coach, she brings a unique perspective to the realm of performance enhancement. Currently, her passion lies in empowering today's youth, leveraging her expertise to build and foster resilience through sports and mental toughness training, ensuring the next generation thrives in both their athletic pursuits and broader life challenges. With a comprehensive approach to athlete development, she extends her expertise to parents and coaches. Committed to enhancing understanding, she collaborates with them to impart valuable insights on building the mental toughness of young athletes, fostering an environment that nurtures resilience and unleashes their full potential.