Striking Out & Showing Up: Building Resilience When Sports Get Hard

Navigating Adversity in Youth Sports: Lessons from Junior Year Softball

In this episode of Confident Calm and Clutch Car Ride Conversations, host Valerie Alston and her father reflect on Valerie's challenging junior year in softball. They discuss the struggles of striking out with bases loaded in a championship game and dealing with a coach who made arbitrary decisions. They offer insights on how they navigated this tough period, the importance of mental toughness, and the role of family support. This episode is a must-listen for parents and young athletes navigating difficult sports seasons and looking to build resilience and confidence.

00:00 Introduction to a Challenging Journey

01:12 Reflecting on Junior Year Struggles

02:07 Parental Support and Resilience

04:08 Overcoming Adversity and Seeking Help

05:44 Adapting to New Coaching Styles

09:23 Lessons Learned and Moving Forward

10:52 Discussion Prompts for Parents and Athletes

14:35 Closing Thoughts and Resources

Discussion questions:

1. “Have you ever had a coach or situation that made you question your confidence or love for your sport? How did you respond—or how could you respond differently next time?”
2. “When things feel unfair—like losing your spot or dealing with tough coaching decisions—what are some things you can still control?”
3. “What does it mean to be a great teammate—even when you’re not the one on the field? Why do you think college coaches care about that?”
4. “How do you want your parents to support you when you’re struggling in sports? What helps, and what doesn’t?”
5. “As a parent, what’s the hardest part for you when you see your child struggling in their sport? Is it the fear of lost potential, watching their confidence dip, or not knowing how to help?”
6. “How do you typically respond in those moments—and what message do you hope your child receives from you when you do?”

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